After my recent breakup, 95 percent of the comments that people have made to me happen to be loving, supportive and wonderful.
And then there have been the ones that were not. Well-meaning? Sure. But not helpful.
One person, for instance, called my Asian ex-boyfriend a \”fortune cookie-roller.\” Racism? Not helpful. One of my girl friends read his Facebook page and proceeded to inform me all of the books and films he likes that signify he's a loser. Dissing the man I (still) love? Not helpful.
After the jump, 11 more stuff you should think hard, and then three times, about telling a woman who has been dumped.
- \”He was probably gay.\” Trust me. He's not.
- Trashing his appearance, his job, or his style of music/literature/movies. You know, I did love the man.
- \”I always hated [his name here]!\” Really? You couldn't have mentioned that although i was dating?
- Moaning about how exactly the breakup is really upsetting to you. Sorry, but I don't want to listen to it.
- \”You have such bad luck with men. Perhaps you should consider using a woman the next time?\”
- Name-calling. While every recently dumped woman can appreciate a buddy who calls her ex a \”douchebag,\” some of the comments people make when theyr'e attempting to be useful are just unkind.
- \”Oh, we always liked him! Are you able to still be friends?\”
- \”You're way too good for him anyway.\” Um, then why did I just get dumped?
- \”It's his loss.\” I am talking about, technically it is. But something about this feels dismissive of my loss.
- Suggestions regarding how to trash his stuff. Dude, don't produce any ideas.
- \”What have you do?\”
What insensitive comments have you heard from well-meaning friends or family following a breakup? Share us your wost stories in the comments!
